Would you like to know how to move forward and stop living in the past? Who doesn’t? Today’s guest blogger is Julie Ganschow, a biblical counselor and director of Reigning Grace Counseling Center in Kansas City, Mo, who shares how to move past the past and go forward. Read the original post here. Reprinted with permission.
Why People Get Stuck in the Past
Let me explain by way of example. Imagine a person who was a drunk and enjoyed being a drunk has sobered up. They have not had a drink for about a year but the thoughts of all that fun they had while drinking and partying are with them daily. They may have distanced themselves from the participation in drunkenness but they have not truly forsaken it.
He who conceals his transgressions will not prosper, But he who confesses and forsakes them will find compassion. Proverbs 28:13 (NASB)
Like a dog that returns to its vomit Is a fool who repeats his folly. Proverbs 26:11 (NASB)
The Problem: Idols of the Heart
A part of the process of growth and change is to stop the behavior and learn and practice new and godly behavior, but more importantly to renew the mind with thoughts that are true, honest, and of good report (Philippians 4:8). This means learning the critical place of the heart and understanding that the problem is not the “problem.” It is not simply the drinking, the shopping, the overspending, the semi-pornographic television or whatever action we are talking about. The problem is the heart, the idols of the heart and how powerful the desires are and what a critical place they have in your growth, or lack of it.
Another reason for wallowing in the past is when you equate being forgiven with having forgotten.
If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9 (NASB)
… For everyone, from the least to the greatest, will already know me,” says the LORD. “And I will forgive their wickedness and will never again remember their sins. Jeremiah 31:34 (NLT)
AND THEIR SINS AND THEIR LAWLESS DEEDS I WILL REMEMBER NO MORE. Hebrews 10:17 (NASB)
You can choose not to dwell on the things of your past and get stuck in misery.
We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. 2 Corinthians 10:5 (NASB)
Choose Your Thoughts
This is not going to come automatically, you must deliberately choose to take every thought captive according to the commands of the Lord. You must choose to obey.
Watch over your heart with all diligence, For from it flow the springs of life. Proverbs 4:23 (NASB)
And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:7 (NASB)
Your thoughts will be taken captive and changed as you choose to obey Philippians 4:4-6 and Romans 12:1-2.
For as he thinks within himself, so he is. Proverbs 23:7 (NASB)
Believing God Is the Way Forward
Such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God. 1 Corinthians 6:11 (NASB)
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