“Is there hope for my marriage?” We at Biblical Counseling Center hear this question many times every week. The answer: Yes!
Today’s post comes from biblical counselor Julie Ganschow, founder of Reigning Grace Counseling Center in Kansas City, MO. Here’s the post at her blog: Is It Too Late for Us?
When troubles persist even in a “Christian” marriage, damage continues to mount and love grows cold. The actions of love cease to exist as withholding of affection, attention, and serving each other become commonplace. Bitterness and resentment grow between the couple and distance becomes preferable. This is where things usually are by the time they come for biblical counseling.
God Restores Marriages
I want to encourage you by reminding you nothing is impossible when God is involved! Even if your husband has left you, moved out, or moved on. When people are willing to do what God asks of them in spite of how they feel great things happen!
That being said, some women reach that certain point emotionally where they just give up and refuse to believe anything will ever change. I call it “rounding the corner” and when this happens it is very rare for her to come back to the marriage. Her heart hardens, she refuses to cooperate anymore in counseling, or to give her husband another opportunity to change and get it right.
It is not the will of God that two people who make a covenant before Him to be husband and wife until death parts them decide for themselves they don’t want to be married anymore.
One Plus One Equals One
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
If this describes you totally or even remotely then it is time to make a new commitment to become a “new person”: one plus one equals one. If you have lived for years or even months independently as a couple, it is going to take some work from both of you to change this.
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