Overcoming a Phobia

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When you begin fearing fear, you’ve swung wide the door to developing a phobia. Thank God he helps you overcome a phobia or other fear. –LAM

This is the last of a four-part series on finding God’s solutions to ungodly fear. Read the first post here and the second post here and the third post here. By biblical counselors Sherry Allchin and Lucy Ann Moll.

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“Fear makes the wolf bigger than he is.” ~ German proverb

The mother of all phobias is agoraphobia, meaning he fear of open spaces. At its core is a fear of panic attacks.

With bodily sensations (such as a racing heart, perspiration, trembling, tingling in the hands and feet, nausea, and more) and mental panic (such as fear of going crazy, losing control, or dying), panic attacks bring on intense fear and acute apprehension. Read about my own panic attacks that led to a phobia.

It may seem that a fear of panic attacks makes sense. Wouldn’t you run from debilitating fear if you could? But this fear is not rational — and folks who have panic attacks and phobias know this! — so it really makes no sense at all.

Pastor, author, and biblical counselor John MacArthur says in Anxious for Nothing, “Fully trusting our heavenly Father dispels anxiety. And the more we know about Him, the more we trust Him.”

Types of Phobias

But phobias are real. Just ask someone who has a phobia. The list is long.

Specific phobias zero in on one fear like the fear of flying. Other common specific phobias are fear of heights, elevators, dentists, and thunderstorms.

Social phobia involves fear of embarrassment or humiliation in situation where you may be noticed or scrutinized. Common social phobias are fear of crowds, fear of spilling food while eating in public, and of course fear of public speaking. You may think, Everyone is afraid giving a speech. Yes, three out of four people have anxiety concerning public speaking, experts say, but becomes a phobia for a small percentage.

Agoraphobia is the mother of all phobias, I say. It’s the fear of panic attacks. Folks with this phobia are afraid to go in public, so they nix grocery shopping, eating out, using public transportation, to name a few–unless they have a “safe person” with them. This safe person is typically a spouse or parent. Sometimes an agoraphobic will not leave their home, even their bedroom, even their bed.

For you did not receive a spirit that makes you a slave again to fear, but you received the Spirit of sonship. And by him we cry, “Abba, Father.” Romans 8:15, NASB

Steps to Overcoming a Phobia

Christian speaker and author Patty Clairmont  battled agoraphobia for 17 years beginning in her teens. So strong was her fear that eventually she wouldn’t leave her bed. She tells her story at popular Women of Faith conferences. How can someone full of fear now speak to sold out arenas?

She broke her fear habit. And if she could do it — a women confined to her bed — and I could do it, all by God’s grace, then you can too.

1. Be realistic. Your fear habit is ingrained in the way you think, feel, and act. It takes time to change this habit. Be persistent. If you hit a snag, no worries. Just do the next thing.

2. Do the basics. Get enough sleep (about 8 or 9 hours daily), eat nutritious foods, drink ample water, avoid caffeine and alcohol, and exercise regularly. A medical checkup is wise too.

3. Mind renewal, first part. Get rid of all negative, trashy, ungodly inputs from music, television including news programs, the internet, video games, and reading materials, including most popular magazines and novels, and replace them with God-honoring alternatives, especially the bible.

3. Pray. Philippians 4 is apostle Paul’s antidote to freedom from anxiety. “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving your requests be made known to God,” 4:6-7. When you react to your problem with thankful prayer, peace replaces anxiety, even fear of panic attacks. As prayer becomes your habit, you’ll experience peace time after time. When thankfulness becomes a habit, doubt dissipates. Remember this: God promises not to allow anything to happen to you that is too much for you to bear.

No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it. 1 Corinthians 10:13, ESV

4. Mind renewal, second part. How you feel and act is a product of your thinking. When you think godly thoughts, godly emotions and behavior follow. “As (a person) thinks within himself, so he is” Proverbs 23:7, NASB. Replace the lies you believe with the truth of God. I’ve developed a Thought-Emotion-Behavior download to help you do this. I encourage you to make copies and learn to replace ungodly thoughts with godly thoughts every day. The goal is a renewed mind according to Romans 12:1-2 and Ephesians 4:23, among other scripture.

5. Be brave. At Biblical Counseling Center, we often say, Faith is believing the Word of God and acting upon it, no matter how I feel, knowing that God promises a good result. When I finally faced my phobia of highway driving head on, I had to make a choice to believe God and his care for me even if I had a panic attack.

I made certain to be realistic, do the basics, replace negative, fear-producing inputs with God-honoring praise music and Bible reading, pray with thanksgiving, and replace lies with God’s truth. I also made a plan of progressively tackling more difficult highway driving over time.

Ready to Overcome Your Phobia?

As I mentioned, what you think becomes what you feel and do. To overcome a phobia or any type of fear and anxiety, begin with knowing God and thinking his thoughts. You’ll find his thoughts in the bible.

Most folks want the help of supportive people as they walk toward freedom from fear. Do you want someone to walk with you?

Find out the names of biblical counselors at your church. If there are none at your church or a church in your area, please contact us at Biblical Counseling Center. We counsel the hurting and help churches care for people.

Some of our counselors “meet” over Skype.

Click here to get your Thought-Emotion-Behavior download

May I Pray for You?

Lord, we praise you and love you. We thank you for your blessings. We know you do not want us to fear. In your Word, you say “fear not” hundreds of times. Yet we sometimes get twisted in anxiety. Help us. We know you are trustworthy. We choose to trust you in all things. Amen.

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10 Comments on “Overcoming a Phobia”

  1. Pingback: Biblical Counseling Center | How to Stop Fear Now - Biblical Counseling Center

  2. My husband wants me to take a four hour commercial airplane flight and I’m already feeling claustrophobic about it. I need help

    1. Hi Ann,

      Many people fear flying. We’d love to help you. If you live in the Chicago area, you might consider scheduling an appointment with a biblical counselor at one of our four offices. If you live outside the area, some of our counselors meet counselees by Skype. Would you like to make an appointment? If so, please call our main number: 847-398-7193. May our loving God continue to bless you, as we know he will. Eph. 1:3

  3. I have had a lot of additional stress recently and I find my agoraphobic symptoms sometimes getting worse. Today was the worst I have ever been outside on the street. I was paralyzed and could not walk, crying and panicking…it was awful…I felt stranded and terrified. One of my daughters who is also a Christian believes I need some kind of deliverance because the root of the problem is spiritual…ie fear. I pray for myself and know others are praying for me but it is truly a challenge. I am a born-again Christian and love the Lord.

    I might add that it gets worse when I am not in my own familiar neighbourhood…..

    Please pray for me to find someone in my area that can minister in such a way that I can gain relief/release.

    Thank you.

    1. Hi Susan,

      Anxiety is hard. Let us know where your live generally. Perhaps we can point you in the right direction. Know God cares deeply.

  4. I’m struggling every day with my emetophobia. (Phobia of vomit) Today my son got sick and I’m a mess. I’m afraid of myself as well as for myself. I need help. I’m in Texas.

    1. Hello Kristen, thanks for sharing your struggle. You can get help for your phobia through Biblical Counseling. There is hope. Please reach out to a biblical counselor in your area or contact us. Some of our counselors meet by Skype/Facetime/Hangout.

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