A better approach than asking, “What is wrong with me?”

Tim AllchinFor Those Seeking HopeLeave a Comment

“What is wrong with me?”  It’s one of the questions you hear over and over in a counseling office.  Truth be told, it’s a question that loops in almost everyone’s head during difficult seasons in our lives.

Perhaps you have experienced one of these thoughts even in the last 24 hours.  You would not be alone.

  • My husband seems to not care what I do.
  • My finances are continually a mess.
  • My children show no respect or gratitude.
  • I can’t even sleep a whole night without waking up afraid.
  • I know I shouldn’t have to sleep this long.
  • Why do my children not talk to me?
  • I hate myself!
  • Everyone hates me!
  • How did I become this pathetic?
  • Why do I allow him to cruelly treat me this way?
  • Nobody even seems to care what I am going through.
  • Why do I hate dealing with the pressure of being successful?
  • Why do I care so much they haven’t called or reached out?
  • Why do I so desperately want a relationship with people I don’t need.

“What is wrong with me?”

It’s a very uncomfortable question!  It’s also almost impossible to figure out how to answer when you are sitting all alone. Think about the times we often ask this question of what’s wrong with us.  

We ask when we are insecure.  We ask when we are afraid.  We ask when we are self-condemning.  We ask when we are doubting.  We ask when we are hurting.  

Here is the good news:  When we come to Christ, he already knows.  He isn’t surprised by our fears or insecurities.  Condemnations and doubt don’t change Christ’s desire to be close to you.  Your doubts don’t phase him or even anger him.  Listen to what he says to you.

Matthew 11:28–30 “Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. [29] Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. [30] For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” (ESV)

Christ invites you to come to him, no matter why you think that there is something wrong with you.  He offers you rest when you are tired of the same stuff happening over and over.  He says “Learn from me, humbly. I will teach you a better way. I won’t burden you.”  

So if you have been asking, “what is wrong with me?”, you have a few options.

  • You could keep asking yourself that question, which won’t help.
  • You could ask someone else, which would be better.
  • The best option, though, would be to take your troubles to God and humbly seek his help.

He invites you to return to him and to trust him with your troubles.  Will you?

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