Working moms who have a job outside the home face a big challenge: maintaining a biblical balance of roles as wife, mother, and employee.
God desires that whatever we do, either by choice or necessity, that we do it all for His glory in each setting and task of a working mom’s day. “Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.” Colossians 3:23, ESV
But how can you get is all done while honoring God? And still have time to breathe?
Working Mom Guilt
Quite often we working moms think we are responsible to meet every need our child presents to us. When we find ourselves unable to fulfill this self-imposed expectation, we believe we are guilty of poor parenting, resulting in feelings of shame, anxiety, or even depression. In response to these perceived failures we may try to make up for them by indulging our children with too many material goods, or by withholding discipline and minimizing our expectations of them.
Unfortunately, neither of these options produces good fruit in our children. Instead we need to prioritize our daily decisions and activities and live with confidence in each role to honor God and do what is best for our families. Find biblical insight here in Deuteronomy 6.
Often we feel pulled in a number of different directions and struggle with where to put our time and attention — to the soccer game or to that important business dinner?
Working Mom Priorities
Thankfully, God has not left us “hanging” to decide individually what is most important. He is first, and he governs all other relationships. Our horizontal priorities are to spouse, to children, to fellow believers, and to those to whom God has given us ministry within the church and work settings.
As working moms, we need to capitalize on the time we do have with our husband. We must schedule alone times to talk without interruption. Also carve out regular date times, and short of an emergency, we must not let anyone or anything else steal that time.
With our children we must remember to keep our minds fixed on what we’re presently doing with them. Making cookies with your son or daughter (or grandkids) while thinking through an office project results in distraction for you and frustration for your child, and it doesn’t get the office job done either!
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