The Conundrum of Confidentiality, Part 2

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BCC executive director Dr. Tim Allchin tackles questions on confidentiality in counseling. His article appeared first here and is used with permission. Part One of this article describes the difficulty for biblical counselors in simply embracing the professional counseling ethic of complete confidentiality. Part Two proposes suggestions that biblical counselors should embrace regarding confidentiality. While the assumption within the ethical … Read More

Love in a Crisis

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A crisis is scary. It’s unpredictable and chaotic. In this article by Dr. Donna Hart, PhD, which appeared first here on her website, she lets us understand how a crisis feels, and we learn how friends and counselors can help. A crisis is a crucial and sometimes frightening time in our lives. What has felt safe in the past is now … Read More

When a Christian Struggles with Doubt

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When you’re a Christian and struggle with doubt, you may wonder what’s wrong with you. You may even think your doubts prove you were never a Christian in the first place or, at best, a horrible hypocrite.  You might be tempted to give up, right? The truth is, struggling with doubt is lonely and overwhelming and discouraging. But your struggling can also bring you closer … Read More

Get in Condition to Pray

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It is by trial and error, by frustration and dryness, that I have learned that I cannot order up a praying heart. I have had to learn how to get myself in the frame of mind and condition to pray. This article by staff counselor Donna Hart, PhD, appeared first here at her personal blog and is used by permission. It … Read More

Counseling the Wife of a Passive Husband (part 2)

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Christian wives with passive husbands are hurting and need counsel in order to choose thoughts, words, and actions that are honoring to Christ. In part one, we looked at two counseling sketches and defined passivity in a husband.  Today, we’ll consider how a counselor might best counsel the wife of a passive husband, including the outworking of anger, self-pity, fear, and loneliness as well … Read More

Counseling the Wife of a Passive Husband (part 1)

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Married to a passive husband? We’ve all heard of the “perfect” husband. He’s attentive and understanding, a lover of the home. And you’ve also read sick stories of wife beaters and serial adulterers. Disgusting! But what if your guy falls has simply “checked out”? Life with him isn’t horrible but it’s lonely. What’s a wife to do? Let’s first see if … Read More

Never Recover

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When you have faced a grievous wrong, it can feel like your enemies have pushed you face-down on the ground, pushing your face into the mud. This is a picture of things that are still having effects in the present: searing pain, unhealed wounds, feeling wronged by people in powerful places. How do we heal from sufferings that remain fresh over … Read More

When Counseling the Sexually Violated

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Counseling a sexually violated woman is heart-breaking and hopeful, for her and for the counselor. This article by Lucy Ann Moll, D.Min., a BCC counselor who counsels worldwide by Skype/FaceTime/Zoom, appeared first on her website. Sexually violated women are real people with real and tragic stories. But there is hope. Perhaps you’re counseling a sexually violated woman now. Or maybe … Read More